http://koreadispatch.com/2008/07/13/buddhist-approach-to-interracial-couples/ Observations from the heart of Seoul Tue, 02 Mar 2010 17:49:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ http://koreadispatch.com/2008/07/13/buddhist-approach-to-interracial-couples/#comment-188 J Sun, 12 Oct 2008 03:48:14 +0000 http://koreadispatch.wordpress.com/?p=62#comment-188 I am a korean american and have always been concerned about korean culture and issues of relationships and psychological health within such a self-protective inclusive culture. While domestic violence is a problem, there are plenty of korean women who are beaten by korean men. These women are the invisible numbers in your assessment who don't talk about their problems. Yes, communication is essential for all marriages, whether interracial or not. But I think addressing communication is not a solution to the problem. This violence towards women and pervasive problem with expressing emotions appropriately without shame is a culture wide issue that must be dealth with at its roots with koreans themselves. Koreans have problems with their attitudes towards women which plague both the korean men and women. Foreign women are definitely more apt to report abuses but korean women will be too ashamed to report any problems and will even deny it to themselves. Korean men will deny that they have a problem too out of shame and inability to appropriately express their own feelings. My korean father abused my own korean mother while they lived in the US and though he has finally mellowed out and settled down, I urged my mother to divorce him which she never did. Communication classes is a part of the solution but it is merely plugging the hole in a dam that is probably going to eventually explode at one point or another. I am a korean american and have always been concerned about korean culture and issues of relationships and psychological health within such a self-protective inclusive culture. While domestic violence is a problem, there are plenty of korean women who are beaten by korean men. These women are the invisible numbers in your assessment who don’t talk about their problems. Yes, communication is essential for all marriages, whether interracial or not. But I think addressing communication is not a solution to the problem. This violence towards women and pervasive problem with expressing emotions appropriately without shame is a culture wide issue that must be dealth with at its roots with koreans themselves. Koreans have problems with their attitudes towards women which plague both the korean men and women. Foreign women are definitely more apt to report abuses but korean women will be too ashamed to report any problems and will even deny it to themselves. Korean men will deny that they have a problem too out of shame and inability to appropriately express their own feelings. My korean father abused my own korean mother while they lived in the US and though he has finally mellowed out and settled down, I urged my mother to divorce him which she never did. Communication classes is a part of the solution but it is merely plugging the hole in a dam that is probably going to eventually explode at one point or another.

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